I beg to ask: Is there any hope for me in bringing my wife home? Please don't bs me, I need to know, what are the chances of bringing her home?
If you keep reacting to her... ZERO.
You want to know the honest truth? Very few of the situations here have been successful. So you're working against the odds.
Coach & Greek are successful. Puppy Dog Tails has his W back. RobX is playing the field and has his W chasing him while he makes his decision.
Your chances for a reconciliation were ZERO before you found this board. Your odds are more favorable now... if you can follow the advice you will be given -- NO MATTER HOW crazy it sounds. You're in the midst of battle here and don't see the overall picture.
Your first steps in exposing the affair to COC are good. Next steps in exposing to family should be put on hold.