Sorry to hear about your sitch. I am glad you found this web site. It is a great place for support. We are here to support you. You have a great opportunity for personal growth.
So much advise that works is counter-intuitive. I strongly suggest that what feels like the wrong thing to do, may actually be the right thing to do.
One simple example: The goal of DBing is to draw the WAS back. Most people believe that talking to and reasoning with the WAS feels like the right thing to do. From my observations and my experience here, that is the wrong thing to do. It actually pushes the WAS away. THE RIGHT THING TO DO is trickier. If it feels uncomfortable, it is most likely the right thing to do.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
