Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

Ok,
Honestly, after reading through my sitch, knowing what you know. I beg to ask: Is there any hope for me in bringing my wife home? Please don't bs me, I need to know, what are the chances of bringing her home?

There are no guarantees. You can do everything that we tell you or an MC tells you, and she can still choose to walk. At the same time, no relationship is too far gone. My parents divorced and remarried within a year.

The DB'ing tactics are about changing the dynamic of the relationship in order to make her reconsider.

WAS's typically convince themselves that "you" are the reason for their unhappiness, and that you are incapable of change. Maybe you yell too much. Maybe you didn't tell her that you love her when she really needed to hear it. Maybe it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fog of the affair.

A lot of the thrill of the affair is in the secrecy; she doesn't have a real relationship with him. Once the affair is out in the open, it loses its thrill. And if she were to walk out, where is she going to go? Is she going to sleep with him in the barracks? Will she be able to afford an apartment on her own? Plus, she's dealing with another soldier -- what if he gets deployed? What if he gets busted for keeping on with her after his COC comes down on him like a ton of bricks?

The only control you have over the situation is yourself and your reactions. Deal from a place of strength, honor, and confidence; let her know that she has disappointed you and hurt you but that you think things can work out if she drops OM, and pray for the best.