Do you both understand what DETACHMENT means? Not caring about how your WAS REACTS is a BIG part of it.
Nothing you haven't heard before Kev. You have been at this for almost a year now. Waiting an hour or so to REACT is a start. That's just to give an initial reply. Most suggest waiting 48 hrs for anything heavy. REACTING with Emotions instead of Logic. Is what got 90% of us on this site in trouble.
Everytime you interact with your WAS it's another opportunity to SET BOUNDARIES and start DEMANDING the RESPECT you deserve.
I still have to do this with my X. I was a DOORMAT/ENABLER for so long that I still have to set BOUNDARIES every chance I get. As a COPARENT I now DEMAND that RESPECT. Before my self-respect was low enough where I let it go. Nothing good every came with giving in to every demand. Just like with kids. All it will do is create a SPOILED/ENTITLED child.
This doesnt mean you should be DISRESPECTFUL. It just means that you no longer make decisions based on what they think, but more importantly what YOU NEED and WANT.
