You asked earlier about who have I exposed the affair to. My closer friends knew, but I would like to start making it open to "the next layers of the onion" of people I and we know.
What do you think about me talking about the separation and D and appending <Wife's name> is having and affair with <OM's name>? There are many people who know only "her side" of the story (what an evil man I am, etc.).
I wonder if more light is the answer. Truth is an absolute defense to libel or slander.
