Or, I would agree, there may be something mostly unconnected with me, that has gotten her to that point.
I choose to insert a big ole "Aha" after this remark. I think it is dead on.
Originally Posted By: gima
I just don't understand how a person gets to that point absent abuse, infidelety, or substance abuse.
The human mind never ceases to amaze us, huh? She is processing and grasping at that which is the path of least resistance and would require the least amount of personal overhaul and hard work in her life. We all do it, every last one of us. Just another sample of the devil twisting and distorting realities and truths. I hope and pray she processes further and has 'her eyes uncovered' from that which the devil uses to decieve.
All of us 'stumble and fall' from time to time. It is what you do in reaction to it that matters most. Or that you even recognize that you have 'fallen'. Devil's trickery.
Originally Posted By: gima
None of those are present in my M, nor have they been.
Perhaps you spoke too quickly on this one. By making that comment it is as if you spoke for two people when you are only one. Do you know with absolute certainty that she would answer exactly the same as you and completely dismiss any existence of abuse. I feel pretty sure that most of us guys immediately 'knee-jerk' to think in terms of physical abuse. Why? Because we tend to be the physically wired ones and so I think that causes us to normally dismiss any other forms of abuse.
Now I have opened a can of worms. --- Of course W's tend toward the emotional side of things as opposed to the physical so that is what pops into many of their minds when thinking of abuse.
that's more than my $.02 worth.
I have digressed. Better stop before I think I am Dr. Ted or something.
Originally Posted By: gima
My W, I believe, equates herself with a victim of those types of transgressions, but I do not know why or how she can do that?
Freewill. Gotta love it, sorta. Atleast I love the Rush song (as I love them all)
