Boundaries

[Ready2Change]

It is important to understand the difference between boundaries and controlling behavior:

"I will not live in an open relationship" is a good start. "You will not contact OW in my presence or in our home", "You will not spend our family finances on having an affair", or simply "You will stop contact with OW" are all worthy of considerations.

Start Boundaries with I statements, not YOU statements:
"I will not live in an open relationship"

"I will not tolerate you contacting OW in my presence or in our home"

I will not tolerate you spending our family finances on having an affair"

I will not tolerate you contacting OW"

Follow those statements with this thought process:
If you continue this disrespectful behavior, I will take this action.

" I will not tolerate you contacting OW, If you continue contacting the OW, I WILL file for D."