Here is an issue I have been wrestling with that came to me after posting last to Thinker's thread. And before I pose it, I understand this is a WHY question for which there may not be an answer and to which I will not devote a lot of time/energy.
My W has said she does not want to be M'd, at all. As in to no one.
Why would my W (a) get M'd in the first place and, MORE importantly (b) have 2 children with me. Keep in mind, my W has told me she has been unhappy 2-3 years, then that number became 7-8 years. If she were unhappy for 7-8 years, then why, pray tell, would she initiate having our 2nd child during a time when she was not happy?!?! I know, it only makes sense if W is simply re-writing history.
Don't get me wrong. I LOVE my children and am thankful every day they are in my life and that they were born. I'm not AT ALL suggesting I would want it ANY other way. I wouldn't.
So, either my W is not "the marrying kind" or she has reached this state as a result of being M'd to me. Or, I would agree, there may be something mostly unconnected with me, that has gotten her to that point.
I just don't understand how a person gets to that point absent abuse, infidelety, or substance abuse. None of those are present in my M, nor have they been. My W, I believe, equates herself with a victim of those types of transgressions, but I do not know why or how she can do that?
