I have lost these discussions every time they occur, as my does not seem to view what I am doing as a consequence of the M sitch, but instead as an example of the cause of the M sitch.
GIMA, your input?
Spot on with the bolded text above. I think this is them lashing out at a true consequence though. In my case, anything that conflicts with my W's fantasy that nothing's really gonna change when we D - we will just live in two different houses and be great friends (or to use her term "co-parents" ), is met with angry indignation and her re-characterizing the consequence as you stated - I'm being selfish, inconsiderate and not willing to protect the children. I see right through this, and I know what it is.
Now the part about my W (and your's) being the co-champion "acting as iffers", again, spot on. I don't doubt Greek's belief for a moment on this one, nor her knowledge. But my W truly believes she does not want (belong?) in A M, let alone a M with ME. And she does not appear to be heading to another, better opportunity.
So, there may be some WAS' who just don't want to be M'd. I just happen to be who M'd my W, so I'm the target. Not a victim, but the target.
), is met with angry indignation and her re-characterizing the consequence as you stated - I'm being selfish, inconsiderate and not willing to protect the children. I see right through this, and I know what it is.
