Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

Trent, I hope and pray that you are right. I can't believe this is the woman I M. What happened to my W? My whole life is turned upside down because of her selfish reasons. I DON'T DESERVE THIS.

If it helps, keep in mind that she was probably hurting for a long time. Being deployed is hell on a soldier's family.

She's had to live with the fear that someday she'll get The Call, or have someone come to her door to offer her condolences. Your kids may never have gotten to see their father again.

It probably didn't start out as an affair. She was alone, and scared, and tired, and some creepy predator saw her as an easy mark. Maybe he offered to help her with something at the house. Maybe he started telling her all the things that she wishes you were there to tell her.

But now she's got the love chemicals bubbling in her head. How can she feel this way about someone else? Maybe she's not really in love with you. And how will you react when she tells you she's found someone else? What if you get angry, or violent?

So now she's confused, so she tells you she wants a D. And you start emailing and calling, which pushes her even farther away. Why can't you just let her go? Don't you see it'll just be easier for both of you if you let her go?

Maybe all of this is true; maybe none of it is true. But maybe it'll help you if you consider her as much a victim of this as you are.