Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

I know I may be naive in saying this. But if there was an OW, I really really don't think it would be her. He would lose a lot of respect in his career.

You're trying to argue this rationally again.

Tiger Woods put millions of dollars worth of promotional deals at risk by repeatedly cheating on his wife.

Mark Sanford put his political career on the line by flying down to Argentina on the state's dime to see his mistress.

A lot of people cheat on their spouses with people that are nothing like their spouses. It's not about finding a better "you", it's about finding someone different from you.