Originally Posted By: KerryK

I think Frank is suggesting that maybe you forgot what it is like to be pursued and passionately loved by a real man.


Well said Kerry. And I think Virtually REALLY summed up well the issues here.

Hey...I don't care if Kalni's H needs therapy, time, holding, etc but damn...if you're in, COMMIT and get to work. Put the freakin' ring on but say, "honey, I'm really trying"; give the flowers and say "I know I don't show it but I really love you and want to try"; touch her, hold her, caress her....tell her you need time to build it back but DEMONSTRATE that you are re-aligning.

And I agree that if her H is withdrawing, something else may be going on. The recidivism rate is, well.....you know.

I'd venture to say that ALL of us men here would know what to do if we f'd up: we'd be home everynight; we'd put a tracking device in our cars so our wive's could see where we were; we'd call home if we were late; we'd turn our computers, cell phones, etc.

Even Michele says there comes a time to do what must be done. It's call the LRT. Familiar? The only thing about this, as we all know, is that once you pull this bomb out, you have to light the fuse........

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;