Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

This is how she keeps you off your game. You want to defend your position.

Yes, you are correct. She does. And it works...

She says "You are just not an affectionate person" and my brain starts to scream "Bullsh*t! I've been trying to be affectionate for X years and you won't reciprocate!

I have found, however, if I follow through and say just that, then her response is just turn and blame that on something vague and non-specific that I (supposedly) did in the early years of our M.

I can't win in any discussion like this, so I try not to get into them.


I see what you say about becomming the WAS. I am having trouble balancing that with staying committed and supportive of her right now during her mothers passing, so for now I am just focusing on staying strong, patient, and supportive.