Yes, I knew every single contact in there. Like I said her name was the only one out of the ordinary. She is a police officer as well in a town about an hour and a half from here.
He know her because she is originally from here. She graduated from the same high school he did.
Keep that one tucked away. It may come in use down the road. I hope you got the number written down.
20 years ago, I met a couple, Jack and Teresa. They were celebrating their 7 year anniversary. They were in their 40's. They were very much in love. Several weeks later, they were at another restaurant. They were both sitting at different tables, with their respective spouses. The spouses did not have a clue about their Affair. Always be open to the truth. The clues are typically right in front of you.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I know I may be naive in saying this. But if there was an OW, I really really don't think it would be her. He would lose a lot of respect in his career. She applied to work at his station and they turned her down cause she isn't that good of a person. All his fellow officers dislike her and put in bad references when she applied. They give all members a chance to dish the dish when someone applies. She received really bad dish. She has a bad name here at the station that's why she had to apply to a different city. Even at the hockey banquet, nobody talked to her other than H and his friend and this other guy at the table.
It would just look really bad on his part.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
R2C, I am definitely not tucking this away. I still have creepy feelings now and then. The whole blackberry thing is enough to keep me wondering. I just think if he would do this it would be with someone who I don't know, and doesn't know my boys and I.
I am still going to investigate, as bad as it makes me feel. I have now looked in his cell phone, checked his email (found nothing), and talked to three separate people who would know if there was something going on. But I will not give up until I feel satisfied and H actually wants to R, not just live with me. I'm not there yet.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
I know I may be naive in saying this. But if there was an OW, I really really don't think it would be her. He would lose a lot of respect in his career.
You're trying to argue this rationally again.
Tiger Woods put millions of dollars worth of promotional deals at risk by repeatedly cheating on his wife.
Mark Sanford put his political career on the line by flying down to Argentina on the state's dime to see his mistress.
A lot of people cheat on their spouses with people that are nothing like their spouses. It's not about finding a better "you", it's about finding someone different from you.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Since my H has been home he constantly bugs me about being with another guy. Like just stupid little comments. I didn't take the garbage out yesterday, he says" Well you should get the guy you're seeing to do it", or I'll ask him to do something for me and he will respond the same way.
Yesterday he even tried getting it out of our son. "Does mommy bring her boyfriend here sometimes?" Funny thing is, is S said yes! Ha ha. When he asked his name, son says "You daddy!"
He also talks about how he has so many woman pining over him. He stole my Cd from my truck and I asked for it back, he jokes well fine I have many girls waiting in line to make me a CD anyways.
Is this all just playful flirting..or what does it mean?
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Is this all just playful flirting..or what does it mean?
It means he's being a jerk.
Part of it probably comes from the anonymous flowers. Part of it probably is a reaction to your GALing (which you're still doing -- right?)
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
My H started cheating on me with one of his co-workers. My H's boss is the brother of my next door neighbor who is a very good friend of mine (note: that is not how I found out).
My H works at a large, hip and very social company and that place has more drama than a soap opera so nothing stays quiet for long. It never even dawned on my H that his boss would tell her brother and he would tell me. Again, it's not how I found out but it certainly was a possibility that my H never thought of as he was so invested in the high of an affair.
I hope for your sake your H is not having an affair of any kind but IMO it seems he has had one or is having one.
