Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Hi gilrs, thanks for thinking of me! How are you both? I've had an emotional few weeks!

This time last year bf was with Helen. He was even NC for a month until he phoned me the week before Christmas. We chatted for an hour and he told me he was going skiing for Christmas and reluctantly admitted "with someone else...". Gosh how hard that was to bear back then.

We bought our Christmas tree last night, I started crying in the shop and he was all worried, but I explained its because I am so happy. To be here, now, with him, buying a pine tree (which I love) is amazing, when last year I didnt even have the heart to get one, because he was with her.

So back home he put some Christmas music on but before we could decorate the tree, he grabbed me for a slow dance to Bing Crosby. I nearly cried again! I sent him a message today saying that one little romantic spontaneous dance around the tree meant so much to me, more than all the "I'm sorry's".

I sometimes get nervous because I am so freaked out to be in this position. Its hard to be secure 100% of the time because its so dramatic what happened and so unusual that I got here, back together, happier than ever and totally fine. Its not like we stayed together, whilst he had an A. He just left and 18 months is a long time to be apart and he dated for 8 months. Yet we love each other more than ever and our relationship is better and stronger for it and I am glad he left me. I just wish I had coped better when he left.

My BFF's gf is M with 3 young children. Her H is 43 and last year after the birth of their baby, he quit his job, started an A, left her and moved to London. 18 months on, the A is over and he wants back. She said no, no way, too much damage done especially to the children. She has heard of MLC, but said he has been too selfish and gave no thought to their suffering. I thought, wow, she isnt prepared to forgive him and take him back, even with a long M and 3 children? DBing isnt for everyone, so I do sometimes point out to bf he is lucky that I took him back, lots of woman in my shoes would'nt have!