Its hard to be a hard a$$ with someone you love, married, and share children with. Especially when you weren't the one who wanted the D. I get that and sympathize with you Kev, but does it make it right to continue to be treated this way? NO. My exh was diagnosed by two different therapists as sociopath. Its all about him, and what is best for him, his schedule, his time.
There are alot of strong people on this board giving you advice. I am self admitted weak. Its a daily process and not easy at all to change. Three steps forward and two steps back my friend!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!