Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Emotionally I cycle in and out of temporary anger and impatience, but have mostly been able to compartmentalize it. I still have a hard time separating providing my w with compassion, support and understanding (which I need to do) from becoming emotionally attached to her (which inevitably causes me pain). I'm getting better at it. The roller coaster cycles seem to be getting smaller each time.

So if she asks why are you "acting that way." Use her words back on her, "I can't fake it." "I'm not attracted to you anymore." "ILYBINILWY" etc. Don't be mean just be honest with her instead of acting as if for a change.

She never asks. When it comes to "Act as If" she is a prodigy. It's her habitual defense mechanism.

I agree with what you are saying, however.