Norm, FWIW, I don't think you'll be able to get it out of your mind until you do something. And what they say about a woman not being able to love a man she doesn't respect is true.

I think you should lay out your boundaries about not sharing your wife with another man, either with or without telling OMW (I do vote for telling her), and then go dark and focus on GAL and working on yourself.

The new year is just around the corner. Make a resolution now to have a fun-filled holiday season. Start doing things you never would have tried before. Get out and make some new friends.

If you love somebody, set them free.
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