No, I am not writing her off by no means. You are right and that was the balk of her tongue lashing, that yes, she has been there for me in a very, very big way. She has seen me crumble to pieces time and time again over XW, hence she had some very unkind things to say about XW, that although hurt, I know she was speaking out of the heat of the moment and blowing off steam, and to just let it blow over.
Funny you should mention practicing volidating and understanding. I found myself using the statement we've all come to know first hand: "I'm sorry you feel that way...." on a couple of occasions. It actually came out without even thinking about.
It's just a really big, big misunderstanding. So we're going to have a "painting party" tonight and get rooms ready for her S to move back in.
What really blows is I really wanted to spend some time with XW this weekend. Doesn't look like that'd be such a good idea. I just miss her soooo much and there is no question at all she feels the same. This is all just so ackward.
XW and I did exchange our 'newly customary' morning greetings as usual today. Lol, put another retarded ear to ear smile on my face again. I don't even think things were this cordial when we dated the first time all those years ago.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
