I choose to open my letter to you with a corny cliche line that gets bandied back and forth here on eveyone's threads, yet, truly has much meaning:
Originally Posted By: The Wizard
A heart is not judged by how much you love; but by how much you are loved by others.
You are loved here Frank.
Whether you stopped a moment of pain or kept someone from giving up too early or talked to someone when they were lonely....you made a difference in the lives of many people here. I'm one of them.
No one will ever know exactly why some people in life are able to take integrity and love to a high level and others, well, throw it all away at the first sign of trouble. Some choose to create, some choose to destroy. Some choose to take a shapeless object and sculpt it into a thing of beauty. Some can't stop and see the beauty of a wildflower on the side of the road.
Like the scene in The Terminator, the blast goes off without warning and we are left cleaning to the fence while we are incinerated in anger and twisted emotions. We are painted with a much darker brush than the pastels that we really are.
Sometimes I believe that when the dust clears, the best thing to do is pick yourself up, dust yourself off, not look back and keep on pressing forward. Let the colors shine through again.
Divorce be not proud. It's time to start anew. This is a new beginning. It's a chance to go back out and risk....a chance to re-experience...an opportunity to find the love that the older partner was unable to show you. It's about new tools now. Like going to Home Depot and taking a plumbing course and installing a new sink. Yeah...there may be a few leaks the first time out, but, we learn and then move onto better and more exciting projects.
Frank, I've seen many people face death in my life. I've had to tell people they have cancer. When that spot shows up on the chest Xray, it's too late to say that you're gonna quit smoking. You can't go back and get that colonoscopy after the colon cancer has spread to the liver.
It BEHOOVES you now to go out and enjoy life Frank-0. It's time Frank. You've given SO MUCH time to other people in your life...to people here....to me....others. It's payback time and it's time to give back to yourself.
Companionship...respect...and love..is out there Frank....for you. It's up to you whether or not you choose to let it back into your life. Get the real Frank back and start enjoying again.
Make it so.
Eastern Frank
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
