Question: What if, my W tells her L about the A? Do I still have leverage? I mean, what if my W just tells her L, and the L tells her to stop seeing OM?
Soldier, if she admits the A to her L, he will definitely advise her to stop seeing the OM while all the paperwork/legalities are worked out. Whether she chooses to or not, who knows?
But that's not your problem at all.
Hang on to the "evidence" you have and again, do NOT share it with her. This is your leverage, so do not show her what cards you are playing with. Do not engage. Do not get emotional. Be cool!!! Focus on the kiddos and again, remember, you are a soldier. You can get through this!!!
