Hello everyone - Separated person in needs advice

[Steve McQueen]

so you can move back home on the 16th. and she is moving a couple houses away. on the same day, beforehand?

why are lawyers involved in the transfer of the keys?

will you have the kids for christmas?

[Wedgewood]

I also said 'splitting up was the best thing that has happened to me'.

Refrain from those types of statements toward her. Don't convey any type of emotion around her.

That is your house so you should go back to it and fast.

Ok point taken - but it was slightly out of context . I meant that it was the best thing because it forced my hand in going to get medical help about my depression, which will help me get my life back on track. In the heat of the argument it was impossible to explain this statement.

[Wedgewood]

Steve:

She is moving beforehand, over the next couple of days. The keys will be returned to me on the 16th probably via solicitor(lawyer).

The lawyers are involved with the keys because she changed the locks when I moved out, so I dont have a key. When i called the locksmith they would not change the lock because there was a dispute.

I will have the kids for christmas, but details are to be confirmed. Should I press this point? even though she will probably not answer any form of communication right now?

[soleil]

Do not press. You already know the most important thing, which is that the kids will be with you on Xmas.

[Wedgewood]

Ok Thanks for the tip.

[Wedgewood]

So my W has decided to move 4 doors away in the same street to the house I am returning to. My kids can come and see me whenever they like, but does this help for DB'ing? I guess it will be hard for us to ignore eachother when the dust settles, but I keep getting the feeling that I have driven the final nail in the coffin by moving back in, and her subsequent response to move out.

I am still on for Wednesday for the key, had solicitors letter confirming. Also been NC since, is this the best way to approch things right now?

[TrentC]

So my W has decided to move 4 doors away in the same street to the house I am returning to. My kids can come and see me whenever they like, but does this help for DB'ing? I guess it will be hard for us to ignore eachother when the dust settles, but I keep getting the feeling that I have driven the final nail in the coffin by moving back in, and her subsequent response to move out.

It is never over as long as at least one of you is willing to put effort into rebuilding and reconnecting. IIRC, Coach and Greek actually got divorced and remarried; my parents did the same thing.

This is just a setback. Keep doing what you need to do, and let the chips fall where they may.

[Wedgewood]

Thanks mate, needed that little pick me up.

Love the sig also - I will try and remember that

[TrentC]

I used to have this is my signature as well, but I guess the forum moderators disapprove of outside links in sigs, because it disappeared one day:

http://www.vachss.com/mission/behavior.html

[Wedgewood]

Got the keys to the house today. My W has basically emptied the place, not much left inside but a few unwanted items. All furnature is gone and appliances etc.

Going to end my lease on the rental place tomorrow, so can start to focus on moving back home. Going to consider re-mortgaging the house to refurbish it, take away the equity and get some nice new things. Could be an alternative to arguing the toss with lawyers over the mutual possessions. It will give my W a shock to I think as she seems keen on getting her hands on any money that is in the house.

Any input here would be welcome