Soldier, all I can do is offer you tactical advice because I'm not too clued up on your entire sitch. Here are some facts on your wife from what I've read so far:
1. She is good at manipulation, emotional blackmail and gaslighting.
2. She is getting legal and tactical advice from somewhere.
This is why she is taking out the restraining order against you. This could be a reaction from something you sent her that she feels threatened by. Points she will use to get the TRO: a) You're a trained killer, b) emails containing threats c) verbal accusations (even if they are false)
This is why it is important you act IMPECCABLE in her presence. From now on you ALWAYS have a witness standing by you that can testify against any threats.
3. Right now (for whatever reason) she is going to go all out to hurt you emotionally and financially.
The woman you know has ceased to exist. She is no longer there. As difficult as it is, accept this.
Courage under fire. Get legal advice. Draw up your battle plan. Gather your resources. Identify what it is you want to get out of this.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT