Gotta Keep Trying 2

[mishka422]

You are definitely on the right track. M'd people check in with each other, send little reminders and notes, celebrate events together, and are thoughtful toward each other. She doesn't want a M anymore so she doesn't get any of that anymore. Simple? No. Hard to change long ingrained habits. Hard to stop thinking of her as your W and start thinking of her only as mother to your children.

GIMA, I've been D'd over a year and S'd a year before that. I still sometimes am on auto-pilot and nearly call or text xh to tell him something that happened or a funny joke I heard that I know he'd enjoy. I don't do it. I stop myself, but even that still hurts me a little. It does get easier, but years of habit take years of reprogramming to get past.

You are such a strong man and a wonderful, caring father. I just know you are going to make it to the other side of this with your dignity and soul intact. You're taking all the right steps now to insure that.