Why is it she wrote what she wrote? About not caring? Why didn't she argue, or try to get more info from me? This is what my W is good at-manipulating me into thinking I am nuts!!!
Soldier,
I am so sorry to hear that your fear was confirmed.
She wrote that because she doesn't think that you know and is acting like it's a non-issue for that very reason.
Believe it or not, you have already set the wheels spinning in motion in her head. The fact that you told her you won't share her with anyone, while she's acting like it's not true, trust me she is at home thinking about it and hard. Because now the seed has been planted in her head that you *may* know something but probably not because you haven't shared what you know with her.
As everyone else has told you, DON'T. Keep it to yourself, hard as it may be and STOP contacting her from here on out. You are the bigger person here by doing this. And actually you are driving the car right now, so to speak, because you have all of this information AND you found out that she's going to get a restraining order on her.
Originally Posted By: SoldierDad
This is what my W is good at-manipulating me into thinking I am nuts!!!
She cannot manipulate you. Remember that. You know you are not nuts because you now have the proof. You are in control. Keep saying it in your head.
Because of the restraining order, I would cease all contact with her immediately.
I hope you have a good flight home and while I can't tell you to put this out of your mind right now (because you won't), try very hard not to go crazy when you get home.
Think about your kids. Let them be your sole focus right now and what is best for you and them.
