Have you H4L and Trent, considered Retrouvaille either instead of or in addition to MC? It is not the same, and many times, has better results.
I've looked into it; the next Retrouvaille meeting in my area isn't until February.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement