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[awest1217]

I just don't get it! This morning my phone goes off...I thought normal good morning text..hope you have a good day...blah blah. Formal nice things, but it wasn't. It was H asking about pizza tonight, which I thought was strange because he had said something to OW about going to a restaurant tonight with his/her former coworkers (I also think she is trying to get her old job back because she is losing hers). Anyway he asked about pizza at the in-laws then said we could go christmas shopping just the two of us. WHAT!?!?!! I don't get it at all. I need some help explaining, if there is anyone out there who was a WAH and having an affair please help me get it. He has one woman living on and off with him, another he just started talking to again that was "the love of his life", and me. I don't get it at all!

Based on a book I am reading, it says to just be nice and draw the cheating spouse back. The more he/she wants to do things, do them and be upbeat (like DB) showing that you are the best choice. I just don't like the constant fighting for my place. I really shouldn't have to, although I understand I do.

I told H I would go and that I am looking forward to it. It is the first time that he has asked me to do anything with just him so I am taking it as a baby step, but What is going through his head?