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I am still open to working on the M, but that is wasted effort unless W also wants to work on the M.


That would be the exact answer to hand her if she brings MC up again.

I go along with all that Greek has told you, GIMA. Since your W has gone to her folks, that will let her see how it will be in the future without you. So, carry through with the birthday, etc. to have a visual picture to her as to how she can expect further events.

Maybe allow your youngest to pick out the cake & card (if the card isn't too bad) and your W will know you didn't have a hand in choosing it, b/c youngest will be sure and tell her he did it all by himself. She will probably be able to tell that he picked it out...just by looking at it. grin If he suggest balloons to go along with all of that....I would try to talk him down out of any more than cake/card b/c it would look too much (know what I mean).

Next time any opportunity comes up that you can use to show her not to take it for granted that you will be home.......such as when you told her to cancel the arrangements for the dog, b/c you would be home this weekend? I don't think she was doing it, but you told her you'd be home and could take care of the pet. The idea is that she needs to "wonder" what you are doing and why couldn't you take care of the dog. Next time just don't volunteer to pet sit and don't tell her you'll be home all weekend. Mystery... wink

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!