Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Thanks D!
I'm glad to hear you have some positives (and not negatives or nothing!).. Sounds like you have a good plan of action. I hope you and your son have a wonderful Christmas no matter what happens with your wife.

Sat with H tonight at the third concert of the week! He was 'normal' and shared some things his brother had emailed him.

I talked briefly about my visit with the lawyer and transferring funds to cover my retainer check. I was supportive of H and empathetic as to how he feels his parents have dealt with the D news(His mom told him that he ruined their Christmas and New Years!-very selfish response IMO)

H scooted out pretty quick after the concert. Put his hand on my back to say goodbye.(Woo Hoo!!)

I had a funny thought tonight. If H and I can get through the divorce stuff(which is he most stressful thing a couple can go through, I think) without hating each oher or having any major fights, then doesn't that show that there IS hope for us? Just thinking...

Funny how judgemental H thinks his mom, dad and brother are about the D, yet H can be so very judgemental too...

Re-read the midlife stages in resources and wondered if H actually has gone through withdrawal and his decision to divorce me is what is described as the decision regarding marriage the MLCer finally shares with the spouse post-withdrawal. I know I'm not supposed to try and figure out stages...but the sad part of me wondered if this IS the final, clear decision he is making....

Will continue to DB and continue Looking for hope.