Well, can the person who told you originally that your husband was having an affair clarify why they thought that? That seems like a pretty significant thing to be mistaken about.
I'm still leery of taking the word of H's fellow officers.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement