Glad to hear that. I know that finding out is the biggest punch in the stomach you'll ever receive. But I don't remember if you have retained a L. But I would. The best piece of advice I got from my L was to "economically divorce" myself from her. Which meant closing every joint account we had together. I did it all in one day and had learned she already took $10k from me.

You are getting great advice here. Have no expectations.Be happy she picked some schmuck. Would you rather it be Brad Pitt's twin brother?

From here on in your interactions with her are that everything that has happened is exactly the way you expected. Don't ever react and don't take any bait. Be the cool-as-a-cucumber stud who is secure in who he is and what he brings to the table. This is her loss. Don't give her any reason to think differently.

Stop worrying about her reactions, or her responses. Let her worry about yours. Let her try to figure out why on earth you are so poised after what she did.

It's you and the boys now. That's your mindset. She has a lot of work to do just to get a chance to talk to you.

Stay dark. Really dark.

Strength and Honor.

Mules

Last edited by mulesqb; 12/11/09 05:32 AM.
M 43
W 44
M 17
T 22
S16,12,9
Bomb 2/05/08
I served her 1/06/09
S'd 3/15/09
D'd 12/21/09



"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.