Well, you dont want to talk to him, right? I mean, if he were to talk to you, what would he have to say for you to be willing to respond?
You havent actually gone through with the LRT, right? Or are you actively pursuing D?
If you really dont think that you can talk to him without losing your temper, or your cool at all, you dont want to break down either, then you probably shouldnt talk to him right now.
What if you let go of what he has done in the past for now. I am most certainly not saying that you should just forget about it, but what if you just started looking now for positive things from him? I dont think that this anger is good for you or your babies right now. And maybe if you can let some of it go (and its all deserved, I think) it can open a door.
I think that he has done some lousy things, and made some shameful choices. And you deserve to be angry. But, what is it doing for you? Is this anger helping you at all? Maybe it has overstayed its welcome, and its time for you to let it go and focus on your future instead of your past.
I guess that mostly Im just thinking "out loud" here.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...