So you tried contacting military one source? You should get live people 24/7. I strongly encourage you to do that.

Stop trying to figure him out. Ill bet that he isnt even sure why hes doing and saying the things that hes doing. What is important now is YOU. I know that hes not a terrible man, you wouldnt love him if he was, but right now, he is re-writing your history together to support and defend his position. He is only remembering and telling people about the bad things so that he doesnt look so bad walking out. Yes, its a disgusting way for a man to behave, but there isnt a dang thing that you can do to change it.

You however, have incredible control over how you behave, and how you respond. Have you set any goals for yourself? Or read and of the DB books? Go around to some of the other threads and say hi and read up on some other situations, it will give you perspective, and some tips, and it will also increase traffic over here at your place.

Your ?'s in the next little while need to be about you and the kids and how you are going to make things easier and better for you guys.

Unfortunately, right now, you need to let him travel his road alone... anything else will drive him farther away.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...