Not to mention the fact that when his command contacts him and tells him that he needs to cease speaking to your W, they will both know what is going on. I think at that point you can tell her the whole I will not share you bit. My H's no contact order even said that you will not go within 300 yds of OW's vehicle, home, or workplace. And its a direct order!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...