Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

ok, so just sent her this: W, I will not share you with another man. If you do not stop this affair, I will do whatever it takes to protect myself and my boys. was this ok?

I did NOT send this yet, I am waiting for guidance.

[Greek]

Fine but no more texts. No matter what she sends back, do not respond. Go dark. Not brown dark - black dark.
Greek

[Greek]

If you haven't sent it YET...then don't! I thought you already had. So no....don't send it.
Greek

[SoldierDad]

Thanks Greek. I am DARK.

[Greek]

Dark is going to be hard, SD. I've observed you spin up and make some impulsive moves. Dark means dark, SD. No contact right now.

Let the chain of command do the talking for you.

And when you retain a lawyer, your lawyer will talk for you.

Greek

[bluerain]

Hi SD, Im sorry. I would demand a stop contact order. This is a career destroyer for this man.

Other than that, dont talk to her about it. When you talk to your boys, I wouldnt bring it up either. I wonder if you are still obligated to keep paying her bills in this case? Is she still eligible for her entitlements and benefits if shes involved in an A?

Im so sorry, this is devestating news, but now you are armed with knowledge, it cant surprise you when you get home.

[bluerain]

Not to mention the fact that when his command contacts him and tells him that he needs to cease speaking to your W, they will both know what is going on. I think at that point you can tell her the whole I will not share you bit. My H's no contact order even said that you will not go within 300 yds of OW's vehicle, home, or workplace. And its a direct order!

[SoldierDad]

Ok, my chain of command knows and are in overdrive to contact this loser's chain. I am dark. She has made no attempt to contact me.

[Gnosis]

SD, I've been watching your thread on/off for the last few days. I've had nothing to add and to be honest I've been kind of in a stressful sitch myself the past 24 hours.

Soldier these are your orders:

1. CEASE AND DESIST ALL communication with her.
2. Gather your intelligence.
3. DO NOT react to anything.
4. Do not open any "electronic bombs" from her
5. If you have not informed COC yet, hold off on it.

FOR 48 HOURS.

During this time you go and read AFWAW's thread and gather strategic information on how and what to do. I believe this will hold the keys to what you can do.

I took my own advice. This afternoon I was going NUTS. I switched off my computer and "checked out" to regain my sanity.

This is a war you're fighting and you pick your battles carefully.

Hope this gets to you in time.

[SoldierDad]

Suprisingly, I am calm. I feel strangely enough-validated. I thought I was paranoid, and she made me feel like I was smothering her, when I KNEW, I JUST KNEW something was going on. I feel powerful, but yet, so out of control. My chain is behind me 100%, and are taking the appropriate steps to stop contact between OM and my W. I am shaking all over, but again, I feel pretty good knowing the truth.