Maybe it's like we don't want the WAS to cut us out of their lives, but in facing it and taking care of ourselves anyhow, we have personal power. It's not the power in "getting our way" - getting WAS to be with us because WE want them to - but it's the power in "letting go" and taking care of our selves and making good choices without expecting to control the external situation and outcome. That's DB, right?
