Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[Greek]

Ok, I have confirmation from PI. It is OM-a Soldier. I need some help here from puppy coach-anyone. what do I do???

Hold on. Catch your breath. Wait. When you get home, 1)contact the guy's CO. 2) Find out if the guy is married and if so, tell his W about the info you have. 3)Stay away from him. You are out of sorts.

Don't tell your W - DO NOT TELL YOUR W - your plans to contact the CO and W. Just do it. Don't lay anything down with her until you have spoken with an attorney and get legal advice. If you tell her anything, tell her "I will not share you with another man. If you do not stop this A, I will do whatever it takes to protect myself and my boys." And that is ALL you need to say. If she carries on, just tell her "The way you're acting right now is just not very attractive to me. I don't have anything else to say to you until you stop your A."

You must be careful, SD. You could either be really really smart with your two weeks home...or let your emotions take over and blow the whole thing.

Be. Careful.
Greek

[Greek]

I dont have a name = YET. I have his license number, room number, building number etc. I am notifying my chain of command immediately to notify his chain of command.

Good move. But you have to stay away from him.

Greek

[Puppy Dog Tails]

SD,

I'm really sorry, man. I can't say that it surprises me, but it still sucks. While you're off serving our -- HER -- country.

Nice. B*tch.

Have you read AFWAW's old threads yet? There was some really strong advice on there from a guy named Hooper that was specific to the military. I think it could help you.

I suggest a 3-part plan, for the next two weeks:

1. LOVE YOUR KIDS. Enjoy your time with them. They need you, and you need them.

2. Get the best legal advice you can, while you're over here. I can't remember; is yours a "fault" state? Is adultery a ground?

3. We plan your confrontation and exposure strategy.

I know this is going to be hard as hell, but DON'T DO ANYTHING for right now. You need to be the world's greatest actor for a little while, while we plan your next moves.

NOTHING HAS CHANGED; only your perspective.

Puppy

[SoldierDad]

Greek, I promise I will. I am taking action to protect myself, and my boys.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I dont have a name = YET. I have his license number, room number, building number etc. I am notifying my chain of command immediately to notify his chain of command.

Excellent. This was Hooper's advice to AFWAW.

Puppy

[SoldierDad]

Well, I am notifying my chain of command-they in turn will notify HIS chain of command, and tell OM to stop. So, she is gonna know something really quick. But that's ok.

[mindfull]

I have NO experience w/any of this, but was typing, pretty much what Greek said.

Feel free to vent to us, but please keep your emotions in check. Those boys need you, especially now. They haven't seen you in a long time, and are really looking forward to it. They'll look to you for stability. And, what happens now creates a "forever" xmas memory. Make it a good, strong one.

I'm praying for you.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Ok, I have confirmation from PI. It is OM-a Soldier. I need some help here from puppy coach-anyone. what do I do???

Hold on. Catch your breath. Wait. When you get home, 1)contact the guy's CO. 2) Find out if the guy is married and if so, tell his W about the info you have. 3)Stay away from him. You are out of sorts.

Don't tell your W - DO NOT TELL YOUR W - your plans to contact the CO and W. Just do it. Don't lay anything down with her until you have spoken with an attorney and get legal advice. If you tell her anything, tell her "I will not share you with another man. If you do not stop this A, I will do whatever it takes to protect myself and my boys." And that is ALL you need to say. If she carries on, just tell her "The way you're acting right now is just not very attractive to me. I don't have anything else to say to you until you stop your A."

You must be careful, SD. You could either be really really smart with your two weeks home...or let your emotions take over and blow the whole thing.

Be. Careful.
Greek

For now, THIS. ^

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Feel free to vent to us, but please keep your emotions in check. Those boys need you, especially now. They haven't seen you in a long time, and are really looking forward to it. They'll look to you for stability. And, what happens now creates a "forever" xmas memory. Make it a good, strong one.

Yes, this, absolutely.

SD, your family needs a hero right now. And that gets to be YOU.

Shine.

Puppy

[Greek]

SD,
Do not take her calls. Do not respond to her texts. The info you have now, pal, is POWER. Don't squander it on a text sent in anger. And if you get on the phone with her, you are going to go off on her ... so don't. There is nothing to talk about right now. There is nothing that she can say that will make any difference right now. So no need to take a call or make a call. Take your phone APART! Put the battery in one place and the phone in another so that you will have to THINK before you make a call. And if you THINK, you'll remember that we'll 2x4 ya if you get on here and tell us you called.

Greek