Speaking for my own self--it is my own mind that makes things hard for myself.

Anxiety. Mind-reading. What-if'ing. 2nd guessing.

Oh, for a six month stay in a Buddhist monastery!

Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process