Just catching up on your posts. Really, bravo to you for making the speech as well as you did. And for having the courage to dig to find the knowledge about OW that you need to know.
Holidays must be very hard (one reason to be thankful I am Jewish! It's not nearly so hard). I send you warm thoughts so you can be strong for your daughters and make the holidays as whole as they can be.
I have screamed/cried into many a pillow. It hurts like h*ll but feels good afterwards.
I also got my doc to prescribe anti-anxiety meds (as well as anti-depressant) The anti-anxiety med is very helpful for when you have to have a planned confrontation with H.
Of course, if you are good at breathing, focusing on the moment, etc, you don't need the prescription aids--and more power to you! but don't be afraid to ask your doc for some if it will help you stay focused and calm when you need to be.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process