Cire - I am generally open to swapping time if needed, but he has a bad habit of waiting til the last minute to ask or even to let me know when he isn't going to be around for his visit. Then bitches that I am unflexible! ARGH!!!!! I have had to change my plans many times because he doesn't plan ahead or inform me of his plans. So I get tired of being the one to always compromise. If I didn't play hardball sometimes it would be out of control!
Donna - he had it written into the visitation agreement that I drop the kids off and he brings them back. He is so petty about that kind of stuff. I figure when the kids get older they will tell him they don't want to go til he is going to be there. Sadly he doesn't even realize it is just a red flag to the kids how low they rank on his priority list.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
