You don't have to date per-se, though sometimes it comes to that, you just have to have the hot female company. Maybe just a nice female friend who goes to the book of month club with you. Once your wife gets a wiff of that AND you realize your mojo still works, it will do something to you that she can smell. It works.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted