Hi...I have posted a few times awhile ago about immediate sitch but now it's been almost 6 months and still in limboland and ready to file D...feel thats the only way to get out of limboland...
Been married for 9 years, 3 kids...family history very entwined: let me explain ~ My H uncle and my aunt married 18 yrs. ago...2nd marriages for both. Soo...we are not blood related..my mom is sister of "aunt" and his mom is sister with H "uncle" but our 3 kids are related to EVERYONE!
H left July 19th (day after son's 8th bday) and gave me the typical WAS script..ILYBNILWY, need space, been unhappy for years, etc...
Found some txts to OW and ex-GF..never confirmed A but suspect.."our families" (since so entwined were shocked because H always seemed devoted, loving, etc)...except has drinking problem.
Fast forward:
Month 1 & 2..little contact..actually up and left with no info of whereabouts for 2 weeks (still bothers me til this day as in no respect for kids or me)...during these 2 months though..impulsiveness to the extreme, wanting Harley, out all nights, into different activities than usual, etc..
End month 2...contacting but txt and childish like.."want me come over, ur call, yes or no?!"...blah, blah, blah...but I was suckered into it so basically developed this unhealthy late night sex only relationship..didn't interact with kids, nothing.........
Month 3,4,5...periodically showed signs of affection, last 3 weeks has said ILY again but hmmm...I truly believe this is MLC or Bi-polar (leaning toward the latter cuz he's only 33)
Basically I have told him point blank that I cannot be his part-time lover, have him come over only when convenient, not see kids or be involved with thier lives so told him meeting with mediator next week - NO RESPONSE (doesn't surprise me)
You may be thinking oh what a loser but he is the kindest, generous guy..everyone use to say I have the best H, our families love him..2 weeks prior to Bomb my sister said he told her me and kids were his life and for the past 9 years he has been trustworthy (I thought), committed, supportive
Do you think I should just file and see if it knocks sense into him, however I am willing to go through with it because I want a husband and father and will not continue to live in this current situation...thank you!!
