Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

Update on todays 'goings on'.

Was away for the entire day working.

As I said above, IM was going to arrange with W to get her stuff to her. I asked IM this morning to ask W, when they met, to get D's car seat back. She texted back that she wasn't meeting W but somebody else.

W wanted IM to drop stuff off at her work. IM refused saying she'd drop it off at the store in the next town. W said she had arranged for somebody to pick it up.

OM turned up and IM gave her the stuff. She also asked him about D's car seat and got a grunt. To quote her, 'he was a cocky rude sh*t'. Sounded like he was brassed off. No pleases or thank you's. No, I'm sleeping with your friends W type of humble behaviour. Weird guy. Weird sitch.

D's mum was in W's store today and spoke to somebody she knows in there and asked what the story was with W. Apparently, W has been telling everybody that she an OM got together AFTER we split up. D's mum put the friend straight and said that it was actually the REASON we split up. Friend said that nobody knew this 'but they will now'. She is off to make sure everybody knows that. Small victory for the truth.

Finally, got a letter from my solicitor. W now has a solicitor representing her for the Separation Agreement (basically this will resolve any financial matters before D). It was a blow for a few seconds as I thought W was going to ignore this. I actually got my solicitor to send it to her so it's me initiating that to protect myself. This may be the start of the arguing though over who is entitled to what - I have a plan in place for each eventuality so I am not fussed in the slightest.

I feel a small victory today. OM and W are p*ssed at me because I didn't cow tow to delivering W's stuff to her and IM made them work for it. I know they will be talking about what an ar$e I am for being akward, which is good. I hope it ruins their evening.

Also I think that while W has some anger towards me, it's good. When she is apathetic then we have the end of the M? Yeah, no?

Still don't get OM. Still don't get why she is with him. I can only imagine he is the 'father figure', unavailable man, and maybe 'he treats her mean and keeps her keen'. He's 45 in a week, has no career / trade / skill (he was working for a supermarket driving vans and now he is working for a scheme that insulates people's houses!?!), has two kids he doesn't see, moved in with W after getting out of a R with somebody else, never dated W, never been intimate .... yada yada yada ... I've said it all before. It never fails to baffle me. Even with the love drugs, I think I'd be very apprehensive. Don't know about them though. Everything I have heard about him is negative - even just the stories that W has told people! She may be blissfully happy, but I kind of feel a little sorry for her ... is that normal?

She's went from a loving marriage (okay we had problems but I never once didn't think she loved me), a step-D (she always wanted kids), a loving H who had all the traits she looked for (she wrote a little 10 point sheet when she was 14 about what she looked for in a husband, and it was something she showed me and stuck to - I had 9 out of the 10 I think), wanted kids, we had a home, reasonable jobs, I have my own business .... anyway, as I said she may be blissfully happy but I can't help thinking 'how the mighty have fallen'.

On a brighter note, P now has 5 sets of outdoor lights, tinsel by the mile, real tree, baubles .... the house is going to look like the one out of National Lampoon Xmas Vacation shortly! Two fingers to the W.