I kinda thought posting to others, that needed it, WAS the purpose of being here.
And if "status" really doesn't matter ( and with me it DOESN'T ), then regardless of my sh!t, my advice should be based on just that, my advice, not my situation....
If I had a "thread".....it would be serious for about three posts....
First things first Craig, Muffin is a very personal thing for me. An amazing woman on these boards gave me that nickname and only Lissie and Fig use that for me. In my opinion it is insulting when you throw it out there like it is a joke. To me it has amazing meaning and is not humorous, it is a sentiment from two amazing women in my life that I treasure.
Secondly, what I would like to see on your thread? Who gives a shitt what I would like to see. My point is you speak of people helping one another yet you do not share your situation as openly on here as others. You began this journey behind the scenes, which I understand and respect, however then you came on here and starting posting to people and never posted your story. You need to give these same people that you so vastly show regard for the opportunity to help you as well. I know what you are dealing with at home, yet you do not have the faith in the people of this board to help you when you need it.
Around here you earn your wings by being open and allowing the people here to see the wretched sadness that you feel and the openly hurting fervor when you post about something that only one left by their spouse would understand. Being and "oldtimer" on here used to mean that you are a survivor and that people on here know you and your inner most dealings with your most intimate part of your life.
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Most of the good points and real advice that people need to hear, is not around anymore.
Bulshitt, it sure as hell is. If people would venture out from there protected arenas and go read some real threads they may see that there is plenty of incredible advice being served up around here. Just because you don't recognize the names anymore doesnt mean there arent new "Jacks, Brandnewdays, Lissies, Sofaraways, and Swashys" they are here, they just have new names.
Go read some sandi2, or some court0818, or some bluerain. The list goes on and on but if we stay put in our safe little world with our friends who will play with us we never see these amazing newcomers who are doling out incredible advice.
Let me just say one more thing, most of the people who do not post as much as they used to and have moved on through this crazy process, do so because they have gotten a life. Found a better place to focus their time, become people with other interests besides the boards. Sometimes silence is a sign of improvement and not weakness.
