I'm doing fine K. I've had a couple small positives from my wife over the past few days. Fighting the urge to pursue.
As for you, you sound like you're handling things better after the initial wave. I am so very proud of how you've handled things.
You don't fight his filters. Validate and move on. It sounds like your H has a lot of anger come up that he's been projecting onto you for the past few weeks. Weather the storm. You're doing great even though you may not feel like you are.
