You have some good points here. One I will not vent any anger towards my wife, I will not complain about the little sex we do have, and I will try to be a happier person. I will redirect my anger and use that in prayer to help for guidance.
Should I express my desire to change myself to her, and if so, how without looking stupid or doing something that might push her farther away. Sometimes I think that by trying to change how I relate to her, she gets even more distant as she does not want to face the possibility of change of her own, like she might "OWE" me in exchange for me doing things for her.
As for liking my wife, it has steadly gotten harder and harder. I thought I loved my wife completely, but now I find myself looking at other women as if I am lining up potential replacements, and this really bother me. I guess that maybe I have fear of all the HARD work that this is going to take, and that it will probably take years worth of effort, and all of this on things that are my WEAKEST points, like sharing feelings, romance, and conversation. In fact, I am so bad at these things that when I have attempted to be romantic before, my wife tells me not to hurt myself cause I am so bad at these things. Worse yet is how to be sincere about these things, so I am not doing these things to just get sex. I am reading Divorce Busters right now. Any other books I should read on how to figure out my wifes needs, and how to win back her deepest love? How to be the man every women wants? How to be romantic? Obviously, I have been failing at these.
