You garner respect by standing up to her, when it's a principled stand.
You garner respect by leading your family, and not being led by it.
You garner respect when you do The Right Thing, rather than the thing that won't make her angry -- and then face her blowback with calm strength.
You garner respect by conveying a sense of PURPOSE in your life, like "Hey, I've got places to go, and things to accomplish. I love you, and would really like for you to be along to be the frosting on this cake of My Life, but I now realize you AIN'T the cake itself, and I don't NEED you. And I CERTAINLY like myself too much to allow myself to be disrespected by you. Wish I could talk more, but I gotta run -- bubbye."
