So, she was more of the aggressor when you met and in most of the relationship right?
You are shy and weren't the aggressor most of the time right?
Now you are doing some pursuing right? She isn't pursuing right?
When she was pursuing and your weren't pursuing, THAT was what worked right?
Now that she isn't pursuing SHE doesn't feel right.. right?
So.. She is MORE comfortable and feels right when she pursues. (remember opposites attract)She knew that you were shy from the get go... Aggressive women usually choose shy reserved men and vice versa.. They KNOW they have a shy man. They are attracted to them because the man is the opposite in that regard. Two aggressive people would be a lot of fighting for control. She knows this. You should too.
You feel more comfortable being shy and laid back.
So, her comfort level is to her what your comfort level is to you. Now that she isn't chasing you, she feels uncomfortable. I would bet that she IS chasing someone. Why not make it you..
Your answer is to go back to what worked for you. NOT chasing is what worked with this woman. She won't feel comfortable until she is chasing. That puts her feelings back to those of feeling "love".. She feels love when she pursues. When she isn't pursuing then she feels bored and out of wack.
Make her chase you. Let her go. Stop all pursuit and tell her that maybe it is best that she leave. Just act like it is no big deal to you. She THEN would want to get back to her comfort level.. which is pursuing... you need to know how to make her pursue and yet be able to know when to get rid of shy boy for the night once in a while... Women like men who are decisive. A shy man can be very decisive. Be decisive here. Tell her that she is right, maybe she should move out. You are who you are and you realize you made mistakes, but you have realized that if she chooses to go that you will be perfectly fine without her..
Lead her back to chasing you. That is what will trip her trigger. You had her going when she came back after two weeks (see, she pursued AGAIN then)
You have to learn how to "close" the deal. You need to learn when to be your shy self and when not to. When to pursue and when not to. Now is the time to NOT pursue. Let her go. She WANTS to pursue because it is her comfort zone. Allow her to get back to that zone and her feelings will come back.
