WAW turning around? What now?

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That's a lot going on. Do you have an attorney? An attorney can slow things down if you want him to or speed it up.

Are you actually dating?

I don't believe I'm facing an OM. I've read lots of threads though and your W is going through withdrawel. That's going to take a while.

In terms of the divorce talk. If you don't want a divorce then end the conversations when it gets around to that or find a way to change the subject.

Has she actually filed for it?

Yup she filed, everything is done but the judges stamp. The more I try to stall the more she pushes for it.

I once read a peice of advice that said something like "Did you love your wife before you were married? Of course the answer is yes. You did not have a piece of paper saying you were married then. There is the emotional divorce and the legal divorce and trying to stop the legal divorce can force the emotional divorce faster"

I think this is the case for my W. I will sign and see what changes after. We have gone out on dates a couple times but she is so confused that she normaly gets distant as soon as she starts enjoying my company again.