Usually the first thing a person can do is cease all relationship talks. More than likely you can't "get" her to understand anything. The more you talk, the worst it will get. If you guys are having big battles/discussions/arguements, stop, then you go out and do something manly by yourself.
What was happening when she DID feel connected? How were you acting then. Why were you more sexy back then?
We still need more info but usually the first step, assuming there is no affair, and I am not convinced there isn't, is getting away from the other person a little to let things settle down and the air clear. Then, try to think about what was happening when "it" was happening.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
